I Know What Boys Like

One of the suggestions I received as a topic to write about was "What men need to know about women". I thought this was a great idea! Now, I'm not saying I'm an expert on men.... I don't exactly have an outstanding track record when it comes to dating and love, but I will throw my two cents into the ring (as well as a few other comments/questions I received from loyal readers). 

I guess I can start with personal thoughts on the topic. Guys need to know that not every girl is a slut. There are still some of us who enjoy good conversation with an intelligent guy. That being said, guys need to know that, yes, women deserve equality and all that St. Kate's jazz, BUT that doesn't mean that chivalry can die! As a strong, independent woman I still want a guy to open doors for me, pull out my chair, and come to the door to pick me up. It's a sign of respect for women and I'm not saying it's a one way street. You show us respect, and we will show you the respect you deserve for being a gentleman. Guys also need to know that some ladies are shy! Myself included in that! Sometimes, we need you to take the first leap and ask us out. I know that there are shy guys as well, but MAN UP! ;) Just ask! As one friend put it- "If you like a girl, TELL HER!!". I couldn't agree more! I guess the same could be said for women. If we like someone, just tell them. I guess, for me personally, I have done that in the past and have gotten that horrible rejection and I am just so afraid that it will happen again, but now it will hurt even worse because I really care for a certain person. 

I'm sure guys are thinking "Well, women need to stop coding what they are saying and just come out and say it!". Well, that may be true but sometimes you just need to read between the lines a bit. Think back to all those romantic comedies that every girlfriend has drug you to. For example, if a girl says "My hands are cold" she does NOT want your gloves. She wants you to hold her hand. And sometimes guys don't even understand when you tell them point blank what you mean. When I say "I wait for the guy to make the first move", that means YOU (the guy) needs to hold my hand first and kiss me first. And when I tell you that yes you can kiss me..... that means you CAN KISS ME!! 

Also, guys, you don't need to be this gangster type guy for girls to like you. The only girls that attracts are desperate hoes. (Sorry if that's you!). But I guess some people like that. Not this girl. Pull up your pants, turn your hat around, and drop the thug talk. You're not from the 'hood', you're from Woodbury. I'm impressed when a guy knows how to use your, you're, there, they're, and their properly. Grammar turns me on ;) .

Some friends sent me messages with things they wanted me to include. One friend said "Girls want to be loved, plain and simple. And most of us don't need expensive dates. We would rather cuddle at home and watch a movie". Very true! In the long run, all anyone can ask for is to be loved and wanted by someone. On the topic of dates, we don't always need to go to the fanciest restaurant. Occasionally, that is a nice change of pace, but staying in with a movie and a cuddle buddy is perfect too! In addition, you don't always need to spend your money on us. An occasional bouquet of flowers is lovely. And you don't even need to go to a spendy floral shop. Just go to Target or Walmart....... hell, even Walgreens has a few flowers! Just a little something to show that you are thinking about us.

Another friend asked "How come it seems most women don't give the good guys a chance?". The only answer I can come up with is that sometimes it's hard to find the good guys. It seems like us women have to go through a lot of jerks before we realize that the good guys are out there. We also know that there are a lot of guys out there that front as good guys and then turn out to be asses, which make them no different from the other jerks. A woman's heart is fragile and there are some of us that guard it and are scared of it getting dropped again. But guys..... know that we will put our heart on the line for you if we think you are worthy. Sometimes that's a stupid decision, but that's what life is all about. As previously stated, JUST ASK US OUT!!!!!!!

I think a friend of mine summed it up quite nicely, " I am convinced that guys will never learn anything they should know about women". I think that is a great statement! No matter how direct we are with the guys in our lives, sometimes they just don't get it. But I hope that this post will help decode our sex a little bit and will give guys a glimpse into what women want.

As always, thank you for reading and for the support. Please feel free to leave thoughts, as well as suggestions for future posts! Thanks!